There is no reason to over intellectualize the subject of resentment. Understanding is not necessary for the effective removal of resentments but taking action is. Like any other defect of character we need only identify it; disclose it to God and another person; become willing for God to remove it and then ask him to do so. But some resentments are more persistent than others, or more delicious to our state of being and therefore exceptionally hard to give up. So what to the unafflicted so called “normie” may be obvious connections may remain hidden to the alcoholic whose brain has developed the ability to keep many important observations compartmentalized and unconnected.
An important offender of these is the problem of jealous comparison. This subject is explored in depth by two students of Carl Jung, the famous psychiatrist who himself was a major thought contributor to the program of Alcoholics Anonymous. In Beyond Success and Failure we grow learning to make comparisons one after another until we come out second best thereby creating the “jealous” comparison. We are wronged because somebody else’s status or situation is better than ours and we thereby feel “less than”.
The problem of envious or jealous comparison creates problems of forgiveness; courage to confront issues before they become resentments; and most importantly the willingness to give up defects of character fostered by maintaining resentments. These defects can take the form of self-pity, pride and a stance of victimization.
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